Aug
192015

What I Wish I’d Learned: Sex is a Team Effort

JoEllen Notte is the writer and sex educator behind The Redhead Bedhead. While she’s busy “saving the world from mediocre sex,” she took the time to share what she wishes she had learned earlier about sex and relationships: I wish I had known that sex is something partners engage in together. Younger me definitely viewed sex as an adversarial situation, one where men wanted and pursued it…

Aug
122015

What I Wish I’d Learned: My Needs Are Equal to My Partner’s

I have been loving the chance to share what many of my smart, empathetic friends and colleagues wish they had learned earlier about sex and relationships through the #WishIdLearned story series. Today’s lesson comes from Mollie Parks, who finds and shares beauty through vulnerability as a makeup artist and blogger: I wish I had learned that sex was an act between always willing partners. Growing up in “purity culture” I was…

Aug
052015

What I Wish I’d Learned: There’s No One-Size-Fits-All Approach to Sex

Rick A. Aguilar, MPH is a public health and marketing consultant who is passionate about sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health issues. His work on the intersection of social media and public health has been presented across the United States. Here’s what he wishes he’d learned earlier in life about sex and relationships. There’s no such thing as a one-size-fits-all type of sex or relationship. If…

Jul
292015

What I Wish I’d Learned: How My Birth Control Really Works

Nicole Belanger is a writer, speaker, and media maker with a deep love for women’s stories. She is the creator of Conversations With Her, an interview series profiling women from various walks of life sharing their powerful stories in an effort to make the rest of us feel a little less alone (you can read the interview she did with me here).Here’s what she wished she’d…

Jul
292015

#WishIdLearned: Sex and Emotional Literacy Educator Karen B.K. Chan

The first time I saw Karen B.K. Chan’s wildly popular YouTube video “Jam,” I cried. It remains to be some of the most powerful sex ed I’ve ever seen – especially in under six minutes. Years later, I was speaking at Playground conference and low and behold, Karen was also speaking. I sent her the fangirl-iest email I’ve ever sent and we made plans to have dinner…

Jul
222015

My favorite sensual writing ritual

When I went to the incredible Alt Summit, I had the pleasure of meeting Sara Blette from Make My Notebook. We connected immediately and before long, we were hatching plans for a blog collaboration. Sara is obsessed with writing rituals (just like me), so she invited me to share one of my own. It can help you feel more sensual and connected to your body….

Jul
222015

#WishIdLearned: Sex Coach Kait Scalisi Talks About Making Relationships Work

Sex coach Kait Scalisi is passionate about helping women build a sex life that works for them. Here’s what she wishes she’d learned earlier in life about sex and relationships. “Relationships take work. So simple, right?! But not just mindless work: conscious, focused effort. In great relationships, you and your sweetie figure out where you’re struggling and then do the work to grow in those areas, both…

Jul
152015

#WishIdLearned: Sex Educator and Coach Dawn Serra Talks About The Power of “No”

Dawn Serra wears many hats: Erotic coach. Courage mentor. Sex educator. Shame slayer. If there’s one thing she’s passionate about, it’s helping people shed their shame and find their courage to create the relationship and sex life they deserve. Here’s what she wishes she’s learned earlier in life about sex and relationships: I wish I’d learned how to say no. For me, setting boundaries is scary and difficult because it brings up…

Jul
082015

#WishIdLearned: Australian Sex Researcher and Educator Linda Kirkman

I asked Australian sex researcher and educator (and dear friend of mine) Linda Kirkman to tell us what she wishes she’s learned earlier in life about sex and relationships: “I had some biology-based sex education at school in 1970 and my GP father warned me about STIs with stories about wartime posters he’d seen: “Vino, Venus, VD”. He also said “When you’re 18 you can do…

Jul
012015

#WishIdLearned: Taryn Crosby Talks Sexuality, Gender, and Finding a Powerful Community of Women

Taryn Crosby, LMSW is a social worker and sex educator. She does workshops on sexual pleasure, reproductive health and creating inclusive spaces. Taryn is constantly inspired by bell hooks, Solange, and her powerfully magical lady friends. You can find her ranting on Twitter (@supertaryn) or hustling at taryncrosby.com. Here’s what she wishes she’d learned earlier about sex and relationships. “As a teen I was a tomboy…

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